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Saturday, April 12, 2008

The big "D"

A neighbor stopped by our house today with a brochure about her church. She asked if we attended somewhere, and I told her we do. She handed me the info packet anyway and said, "We've got a great divorce program! Not that I'm advocating that." I just looked at her.

OK. Thanks.

What a weird thing to say to a new neighbor! I mean, our whole family outside. We are obviously a young family just starting out and hopefully not emitting "divorce vibes" to strangers. Who knows... people are so strange.

On the other hand, I just got back from celebrating a friend's recent divorce. There was even a "Happy Divorce" cake! Now, I'm generally against divorce because I hate what it does to relationships and families and kids. But in this case, marriage was a much worse thing. Those papers signify the end of a really bad thing, and a bright and happy future. It was cause for celebration!

I'm not exactly sure why, but for the first time in my life, I'm seeing the divorce statistics being played out in front of my eyes. I've been stunned and saddened to see friend's relationships falling apart. I know seasons of life seem to cycle: first, everyone I knew was dating, then there was a couple years when everyone I knew got married, then everyone started having babies...but is this the next phase? It just seems strange to see people my age, people who got married when I did, not be able to work things out with their spouse.

It makes me grab onto Brian and say, "Don't you ever do something like that to me or the kids!" And makes me realize what a great guy I have, worth weathering the little quabbles and working to make sure we're doing ok everyday.



Lisa said...

How long have you been married. We haven't come to the point where friends are divorcing. Most everyone we are friends with are like us - little kids, go to church. I hope that doesn't start happening.

That is hilarious that she said they had a great program at their church!

Hooked on Houses said...

I laughed out loud when I read what your neighbor said to you. Too funny. Not sure what she was thinking? -Julia

Anonymous said...

Hi Amy Jo,
I am not a new bride, in fact, you could say I am an older one - 34 years old infact. The secret is Commitment, Pledge and covenant. We took a vow before God almighty and He certainly is the greatest problem solver ever. There are moments in life, especially married life and parenting when you can succumb to the trials of both responsibilities. But, "He who began the good work is able to complete it." I enjoy visiting your site. I am on everyday checking on Colleen and Livi - Colleen is my Daughter-in-love. You are an inspiration to her and to me. God Bless you and your family.


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